Gay loving

Some gay men put up with a lot in their relationships. Their long-term partners will aggressively flirt with other men in front of them, go home with a guy from the bar without any forewarning, hibernate with ex-lovers without gaining consent from their current partner, or brag to their current boyfriends about the quality of their sex with strangers. Ouch.

Here’s what I come across most concerning. Some gay men don’t feel they possess a right to be upset about these behaviors. They’ll ask me why they feel so jealous and how can I support them let travel of their insecurity. They think that the gay group believes in sexual freedom and it isn’t cool or manly to protest to their partner’s sexual behavior.

In other words, they perceive shame for experiencing hurt by the actions of their long-term partners.

Heterosexual couples get plenty of social support for treating their partners with respect when it comes to sex. Outrage is the typical social response when friends are told about poor relationship deed among straight people. When gay men tell the matching heartbreaking stories they are less likely to get a big response. LGBTQ

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