Gay dorm

Gay and nervous about having a roommate. Advice?

CloudStudent1

HI all,
I’m moving out in the fall and into a dorm. The thing is, I’ve only lived as an only minor. Not to utter I haven’t had sleepovers or overnight summer camps, but I’ve never lived with someone else like a roommate for an extended period of moment. 7 days max, and only when I was younger. The other thing is that I’ve recently come out as Gay. I’m absolutely terrified of having a roommate and/or making them uncomfortable about me being LGBTQ. I really want to do the university experience with a dorm and roommate and such… I just hope they’re not homophobic. Has anyone else out there been in a similar situation? I’ve dealt with homophobia in the past on a smaller scale. I’m really looking forward to my college life but I also totally perceive that there are people out there that may be uncomfortable with me being LGBTQ.

Do I openly disclose that I’m gay from the start? I feel like I should?

Would love counsel on this as this is one of the many reasons I didn’t do campus housing as soon as I started college.

Thanks!

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PunctualPancake2

A lot of colleges have Facebook groups to see fo

Girls and Boys in one dorm room?

Arwon said:
Why would you oppose it for couples? Why do you hate freedom?
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I think our schools might be reluctant to consent that, in case they crack up mid semester or something. Then, you either have to shuffle them into new rooms, which is a pain in the butt, or a social drama clusterfark might start, which creates more work for your RAs, and could possibily hold a negative impact on people's schoolwork.

That was American's arguement against it, when the Residence Board voted on it when I was there.

Personally I'm more a fan of the "5 people each have their own room but share a common lounge-kitchen area" structure prefer some of the colleges at my university (in Australia college = dorms). Dorm living seems so... adolescent, so overly structured and regimented. But then they can't even drink til they're 21 so the poor buggers aren't exactly treated with dignity or respect to begin with.

Private apartments FTW, who wants university bureaucracy in their living space anyway?
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We have those here too, although not usually for freshman. For so

Heading off to college is tough enough without getting paired with a terrible egg for a roommate. Finding a good game can be even harder when you’re a square peg amid a circle of dormitory conformity — a student who’s homosexual or bisexual or gender non-conforming, as Rutgers senior Aaron Lee is. Now Modern Jersey’s state university has become the latest to announce it will let male and female students to share a dorm room, in an endeavor to make the sapphic, gay, bisexual and gender diverse (LGBT) community of students feel right at home.

Lee — who was born a girl but looks, sounds and identifies as a guy — has been working toward this goal since he was a sophomore. In years past, he says, administrators rebuffed his entreaties. But in the wake of the heavily publicized September suicide of Rutgers freshman Tyler Clementi — the gay student who jumped from the George Washington Bridge after his roommate allegedly streamed video on the Internet of his homosexual encounter in their dorm room — campus housing officials have agreed to make at least 100 spaces in three dorms available to students who feel uneasy living with someone of the same sex. (More on Time.com: Cyberbullying? Homophobia? Tyler Clemen

Any moms of gay sons? How did you select dorm?

rcier10101

I’m concerned about how my gay child will be accepted. He will attend a UC school. CA is progressive, but still, I am not sure how the roommate situations are for a gay kid. Thx

anon947855552

Not a parent of a gay son here. But- had some college friends who later made that discovery about themselves. So much better in today’s world. One of the guys just fit in differently with us girls differently than just being a guy friend so it was no surprise to find out decades later (that poor guy’s parents likely caused him angst).

Same as for any student. You don’t hit on your roommate unless there is a mutual attraction. In today’s world I certainly hope HS students heading off to college possess learned to cure others without regard to gender issues, religion issues or a host of other differences.

Seems to me it could be a nonissue. His lifestyle does not need to affect his roommate any more than a heterosexual man’s does. As extended as roommates are not exiling the other for the private use of the room or being intimate in front of the other occupant with either gender it is not an issue. Girlfrie