Men who like men

About gay male sexuality

Many men report that they had experiences with people of the same sex when they were young. This is often a normal part of exploring their sexuality. Men who go on to describe themselves as ‘same-sex attracted’ or ‘gay’ acquire a strong physical and emotional attraction to men that they don’t usually feel for women.

Being a gay gentleman is natural

There is a lot of pressure from world for young men to be heterosexual or ‘straight’. This can often generate feelings of isolation for young men who are homosexual and make them scared to exhibit their sexuality.

It’s important to remember:

• There are gay men in every society and every country.
• Being gay is just a form of sexuality.

Why some men are gay

There is no real explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not. Although there is no right or improper answer to the question, a doable reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation.

Knowing whether you’re gay

There is no test or questionnaire you can end that will acknowledge this question for you. If you think you might be gay, it’s important that you:

• Don’t deny your feelings.
• Take your time to explore your sexuality

  Why do some vertical men have sex with other men?

  According to nationally-representative surveys in the Combined States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.

  In the unused book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom appreciate hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.

  After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva initiate that they like a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.

  We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.

  Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?

  The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to contain more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s
  
  

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  The subject of straight-identifying men who have sex with other men is a fascinating one, in that it shines a light on some extremely potent, personal concepts pertaining to culture and sexuality and one’s place in society. That’s why some sociologists and other researchers have been very eager to pursue out such men and hear them explain how they fit same-sex sexual activity into their conception of heterosexuality.

  The latest such research comes in the journal Sexualities, from Héctor Carrillo and Amanda Hoffman of Northwestern University. They conducted 100 interviews, with men who identified as straight but sought out casual sex with men online, hoping to superior understand this population. A big chunk of the article consists of snippets from those interviews, which were primarily conducted online by three female researchers, and at the terminate Carillo and Hoffman sum up what they found:

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  What Gay and Bi Men Really Want

  Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?

  Following on from his research into what straight women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next logical step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.

  In order to dig deeper and draw out a accurate list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this method of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.

  Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities deliver in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The equal comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.

  What gay and bi men say they want

  Just like straight women and direct men, “we enjoy be